29 August 2013

Dear shoe shops, love a girl with Big Feet

Growing up I didn't wear heels. In fact despite a cupboard full or gorgeous shoes, I still rarely wear heels and usually reserve them for occasions when I know someone won't suggest we "go for a little stroll." I never lernt to walk in them, because growing up they were never available in my size.

Shoe shopping is still somewhat traumatic for me. Being told to "try the mens section" takes me straight back to being 12 years old. Every September my mom and I would start the hunt for shoes for the new school year. Each year was the same, and in the stores I would be shown the selection of slippers (yes, really) and stripper shoes available to me. Inevitably it always ended in tears and the frustration would leave feeling inadequate and freakish.

Although plus size clothing has come a long way, footwear for people over a UK size 8 (US Size 10) is still so far behind. Although I'm grateful to the retailers that have noticed that women are taller and have bigger feet than ever before, I am sick to death of not being able to try shoes on before I buy them, being restricted to online shopping and having to start looking for winter boots in July, just to give me a fighting chance of finding something fashionable I might like in my size.

In some ways I feel completely betrayed. My shoe size has been the same since I was 12 years old and is probably the one thing about myself I cant change. However, when dinner party conversations turn to "if you could change one thing...' my answer is always the same.

I am tired of having shop assisstants do a double take when I ask if they stock my size, I am offended that many go on to try and sneak a look at my feet. I am frustrated that retailers advertise their larger sizes but only stock one pair in each style. Why should I have to plan to be the first and only customer for those shoes? I don't want to try your other store in the next town. I don't want to order them online and wait 10 days for delivery. I just want stylish shoes. For my feet. That fit. And I want them now.

I am not my dress size. I am not my shoe size.

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10 comments:

  1. It does get really tiring trying to buy shoes. I'm not sure why I still try asking in some of the nicer shops for my size... Usually it ends with the person checking stock in the back, coming back to me and saying that no unfortunately they sold out (of the one pair) but that I can order online to the store.

    If a size is popular enough to sell out that quickly, why on earth don't they stock more?

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    1. I feel like that alot. I'm just so sick of being "rejected" it becomes an emotional thing and I just can't face being told yet again that they dont have them for XYZ reason...

      I feel like screaming at the stores that I WANT TO GIVE YOU MY MONEY!!!

      Where do you buy shoes?

      Aimee x

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  2. I wear a ten (US) 41 (Euro) 8 (UK) ...everything sells out so quickly here. It's a pain in my side. I have to order shoes online and hope they fit. First world problems I guess but I want fun shoes! In normal colors!

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    1. I know what you mean, you feel a bit guilty going on about your choice of shoes when in the grand scheme of things....!
      However, I don't appreciate being made to feel lesser because of something I can do nothing about and I guess even though most places "technically" offer your size, it's no good if you cant actually buy them!!

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  3. I hear ya, sweets.

    I am lucky enough to have smaller sized feet, it's the one area where I feel almost normal. Except for the part where they are wider than "straight size" feet. ha.

    Growing up, I ended up hoarding shoes because they were the only thing I could buy from any store without getting looks. Being plus sized is hard enough, I was just so thankful that most shoes would fit me. They were the only thing that would. I'd never go clothes shopping with friends, but I WOULD go shoe shopping. Trying desperately to fit in.

    I don't have large feet but I really, really empathize with you. If it's any consolation, I have a US size 8, which is one of the most popular sizes. That means that my size is almost always sold out, too :(

    I don't think we can win.

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    1. Thanks so much for your lovely comment.
      I know what you mean, I would always hoard make up and accessories because they were so much easier for me to buy. I still pick make up/beauty shopping over clothes or shoe shopping any day because when I do, I'm no different from anyone else. (You would not believe the amount I have spent on hair products over the years!!)
      I've managed to build up quite a shoe collection over the years due to an awesome family that will buy shoes for me just because they happen to see my size is available!
      Aimee x


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  4. Those are the hottest lace-up like shoes I've ever seen. So fierce! I want! I have a friend who also has issues finding the right fit with shoes -- I'll definitely pass this on!

    Hollaaa
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    1. Thanks hun, glad you liked the post!

      Aimee x

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  5. I juuuuuuuust fell in love with you for this post. Literally, lol. I have size 11 feet that are wider than the sidewalk (it would feel like), so much so in fact that my family (and now three year old neice) have taken up the habit of calling me "Samsquanch" because of my gigantic sasquatch feet. In addition to that I'm flat footed and have like multiple ankle injuries from playing softball for 12 years that make it nearly impossible for me to wear high heels longer than 30 minutes lol. Target is a great source for cheap, fashion friendly shoes that come in larger sizes (US target still offers better) but yeah shoe shopping is a heart breaking and hair pulling experience for me to this day. My mom so kindly reminded me that I should just wear them more often to get my feet used to them, I say my flats, and other fancy shoes work just fine until hell freezes over and I have to submit myself to foot torture lol.

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